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William Corless

William Corless

17th Sep 2019

William is an associate faculty member and programme director in the IMI.

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In the Pursuit of Excellence: The Truth about Receiving Feedback

Being faculty on the High Impact leadership programme has provided me with some insights which are useful to share. I wrote this article for those who are ambitious and want to fulfil their potential. People often avoid getting feedback out of fear for what they may hear. On the other hand people ask for feedback and are unable to handle it. So the challenge is to understand how do we overcome these difficulties, especially if we personalise the feedback and it hurts our feelings.

Firstly, it is really important to understand the importance of feedback to you. Many people will have blind spots and area’s to develop. The ways to overcome this are through receiving feedback, coaching or shared discovery like group work or using psychometric tools. The higher your self-awareness the higher your emotional intelligence will become.

Research shows that 90% of top performers have higher emotional intelligence and are far more likely to be more productive in their roles, have increased career promotions and higher salaries. Emotional intelligence is responsible for 58% of your job performance. (Source: Emotional Intelligence 2.0, Travis Bradberry and Jean Greave). The role of emotional intelligence is therefore crucial to your career and receiving feedback is an integral part of the development process.

Many people react in different ways when they receive feedback. Firstly, they may go into defence mode and under an amygdala hijack shut down and refute the message be delivered. Secondly, some people may only listen and acknowledge the nice things, which is the danger of the feedback sandwich, (start nice, deliver tough message and finish with something nice). This of course could be a coping mechanism. Thirdly, people can personalise the message as it attacks their ego or self-identity. This rocks their confidence.

People often avoid getting feedback out of fear for what they may hear.
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Being able to listen and unlock the message that is being provided in the feedback conversation is key to high performance.The lessons that I have learned from working with clients in an executive coaching platform or in group facilitation on a programme such as High Impact Leadership are as follows:

• See the feedback conversation as a learning conversation. You are learning about yourself, about others expectations/ preferences, ways to improve your skills and enhance your emotional intelligence.

• Recognise that if people are confident to give you feedback that there is a positive intention behind the message. Usually, people want you to fulfil your potential.

• Is the feedback true and objective. Seek out people that you trust will be honest with you. Follow the rule of thumb: If the overall majority agree there is something to work on, there must be something in the message for you to work on.

• Understand the reasons behind your defensiveness. Understanding triggers and why you may have a strong reaction to the feedback. Working with a coach could help you with this.

• Realise, that if you tend to personalise feedback. Take time to process the feedback and wait for the emotions to settle.

• If you know you are sensitive to feedback, prepare yourself for this. Stay objective and ask for a follow up meeting so that you can process the information and have a productive conversation.

• Seek specific feedback and gain clarity on details and expectations so you can make a development plan.

• See your development plan as a challenge. Set goals to achieve this and before you know it you will be in a success spiral towards personal success.

Remember, feedback is essential to high performance. If you are in the pursuit of excellence, the only way to learn is through finding ways to improve. Whether you are a pro golfer, an Olympic athlete or a six nations grand slam winner feedback and analysis of your performance is crucial to your personal success. To further your own career check out the High Impact Leadership programme in the IMI.

William Corless is an executive coach, certified mediator and corporate trainer who works with C-suite leaders across a wide range of industries both nationally and internationally. William is an associate faculty member and programme director in the IMI, a guest lecturer with Notre Dame University. Most recently, William has continued his education studying Leadership in Harvard, High performance teams in the University of Chicago, Organisational Behaviour in the London School of Economics, Intercultural Management with Notre Dame and Negotiation in NUI Galway.

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